I used to believe that saying “yes” meant that I was a good person-helpful, dependable, and kind.
But deep down, I was afraid that if I said “no,” I would disappoint people or lose relationships.
But over time, I realized that being that good person made me exhausted as I was trying to help everyone.
Freedom from saying it
Not only is it ok, but it is also necessary for a healthy life.
Saying “no” isn’t selfish nor does it mean that you are a bad person. By saying “no”, you are honoring your limits, valuing your time, and choosing where you can truly be present and wholehearted. This will remove some of the unnecessary stress.
When we say “no” to things, especially when they aren’t right for us, we create space for the right “yes”- opportunities, commitments, and relationships that align with our values, our energy, and our purpose.
Remember
Your “no” doesn’t make you a bad person. It makes you an honest one. And sometimes, the most loving thing you can do, for yourself and others, is to say no when you need to.